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Apr 23, 2023Liked by Andrew L Sullivan

You always see deeper ramifications to problems. Yes, when we ignore God’s parameters, we often unwittingly let the pigs out of the pigpens to do further damage than we expected.

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I appreciate your comment. I think many people think we are all living in a pigpen, but in finding no pigs, they turn on everyone else.

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Speaking as a parent, the fears parents have are genuine and real. Most parents don't want our kids damaged or their maturation process stunted by the exposure at too-young ages to inappropriate sexual experiences or printed or video content of a sexualized nature. Most parents are aware that sick sexual fantasies aren't a sign of a healthy psyche and won't contribute to greater quality of life for their children.

That picture from Japan--ay yai yai--that isn't a healthy thing for any culture. The peoples inhabiting Palestine before God gave it to the Hebrews following the Exodus from Egypt had their Asherah poles and their fertility gods as well. They also sacrificed children to Molech by throwing them alive into the flames. And many of us, looking around at the train wreck that the "free love" of The Sixties has led to see connections between the hyper-sexualization of our culture, the destruction of the family, the rise of the abortion industry, the proliferation of human trafficking, and the sharp downward trajectory of our nation from the strength and prosperity that it once had. We are losing our souls to this madness. Much as been written about how this horrible rot has been deliberately introduced by communist operatives using the Cloward-Piven strategy. As a conservative Christian and an American who loves my country, I am greatly concerned by what I'm seeing.

When I was raising my kids, I didn't want pedophiles around my children any more than I wanted child molesters around them. It is ALWAYS inappropriate for adults to participate in or explore sexual fantasies with kids. Period. Full stop. It also doesn't matter if it's an abused child hitting on a foster parent or a childish moment of inappropriate curiosity. There are boundaries of right and wrong, and this is one of them.

Yes, kids do have a fascination with their own body parts and a natural curiosity about sex and bodily functions, but parents have a sacred duty and obligation to explain the facts of life to their kids and warn them to beware of those people who will take advantage of their innocence and steal it from them. It is also parents' job to watch over their kids and protect them from would-be predators.

Kids' innocence is valuable and beautiful. It is a gift. We should protect it. Sometimes, that involves setting boundaries and disciplining children and reinforcing that no means NO until they start listening and understand why they shouldn't engage in certain behaviors. This can be particularly challenging with kids whose innocence has been stolen from them, who are hyper-sexualized because of sexual abuse, but it can be done. Those who are mentally and emotionally adults should have the ability and the healthy boundaries to say no and make it stick.

I see the clips of Biden pawing at little girls' chests--and the looks of unhappiness and discomfort on those girls' faces--and I think that Biden is a nasty old man who needs to be kept away from contact with little girls. And then I wonder why any parents would put their children needlessly into those situations where Biden can do that? I can't understand that. I particularly can't understand what would prompt a parent to intentionally put their child in that situation while knowing that it will be caught on camera and spread all over the internet.

That doesn't mean that the fears that men have are any less real when it comes to being accused of evil acts when they were genuinely just trying to be there for some kids. I understand why you would have those fears. In this current atmosphere, it's gotta be a real issue.

Even worse is that it isn't just men who are capable of committing these acts of depravity. In recent years, the reports of women teachers caught committing acts of pedophilia with their young male students have also risen dramatically. As a mother, I look at those reports with great concern. We need to rethink education. We need to return to a model where parents are actively overseeing their kids' daily welfare. Homeschooling is capable of preventing so much of what is going on in the public (and even in the private) schools, but it requires certain sacrifices from the families who pursue it. Most people don't get wealthy homeschooling because it usually takes a significant chunk of time and effort from one parent.

My advice for you as well as anyone else man or woman: if they aren't your kids, there's strength and support in numbers. As much as possible, avoid closed door situations where you are the only adult in the room with a child. More children is better, other adults in the room is even better. Watch each others' backs and build healthy boundaries that kids and adults respect. Teach them to respect that word, NO.

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Apr 24, 2023·edited Apr 25, 2023Author

You are walking pass the problem and not seeing it for what it is. Perhaps I should have provided more examples. Schools are having a more difficult time finding teachers as well as bus drivers. There are plenty of adults around but many do not want to work around children at all. How do you prescribe to change that? See my update above.

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